DON’T Read This if You Want to Change

Did you know that the unconscious mind doesn’t recognize the word ‘don’t’? Every time you use it, your mind will skip it and go straight to the rest of your sentence. So when you say to your kids ‘Don’t run, you’ll fall over’, you’re actually giving them a command to run and fall, which makes it much more likely to happen. It might be more constructive to say ‘Run on the grass’ or ‘Watch where you’re going when you run.’ Think of the UK’s Drink Drive campaign ‘Don’t Drink and Drive.’ Surely it would make more sense to say ‘Stay Sober, Arrive Safe’?

Since your unconscious mind doesn’t process a negative, it’s important to be clear with the words you use, whether speaking to yourself or someone else. Instead of telling yourself what not to do, focus more on what to do. Think of new ways to phrase things by removing the negatives. I can’t think how many times I’ve been nervous in the past and repeatedly said to myself ‘Don’t mess this up’ then watched, horrified, as I did exactly that! If I’d known what I know now and concentrated instead on what I did want to happen, the result is likely to have been very different.

Making the transition to positive language and rephrasing how you speak to yourself and others will not only help your unconscious mind, but also your conscious mind! You’ll start thinking – and acting – more effectively. Where the head goes, your body follows.

Keen to know which words will specifically convert your web traffic into solid sales or enthusiastic inquiries? Take a look at my new coaching program.

Andrea Sig

 

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Upcoming Events

Change Your Words, Change Your World’ – Workshop on May 30th

A one-day introductory workshop on how to shift from a fear-based reality to a joy-based one. If you need an excuse to get away for some ‘me’ time, this is it!

Workshop info (scroll down for the ‘Special Events’)

Places fill up quickly, email me andrea@purplefeather.co.uk or call me at 07779 481807 to save your spot!

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There is no ‘Try’

How many of us are guilty of saying, “I’ll try?” I think we’ve all said this at one time or another. Now while the word ‘try’ is not completely negative like the words ‘no’ or ‘can’t’, saying you’ll try to do something is like setting yourself up for failure. You’re telling yourself that either you don’t believe in something or that you’re not committed to it. It’s a halfway attempt.

Trying gives you an easy way out. How far can you get if your mindset is to TRY to be successful? The great Yoda said it best, “Do or don’t. There is no try.” Don’t try to succeed, demand success! Don’t say you’re trying to be healthy, say I AM being healthy. Eliminating the word try from these statements has made them more like an affirmation – you’ve turned them into a positive and there’s no wiggle room for failure.

I demonstrate this with my coaching clients by asking them to try and pick up a book. They usually hesitate and then go ahead and pick up the book. When I shake my head they look confused. ‘I didn’t actually ask you to pick up the book, I asked you to try and pick up the book.’ Impossible isn’t it? Then the penny drops and they usually smile (or throw the book at me :)). I give them full permission to pull me up on ‘trying’ too, because it’s something I’m continually working on.

As small as this word may be, it is quite powerful. Removing it from your vocabulary will be like a breath of fresh air. You will be surprised how much more living you do in your life, when there is no other option then to just DO or NOT DO. This can work wonders in your professional and personal life, because we all have the innate power to attract anything we desire.

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Upcoming Events

How to Create Your Prosperity Shift’ – Webinar on May 13th at 12 pm PST, 3pm EST and 8pm GMT.

This is about life, work, living your dreams….the whole enchilada. Andrea’s guest Laura Leigh Clarke has some very efficient TOOLS and TECHNIQUES to help you create precisely what you want.

It all comes back to the same core. And she’s going to share precisely what that is. Click here to register for FREE!

Change Your Words, Change Your World’ – Workshop on May 30th

A one-day introductory workshop on how to shift from a fear-based reality to a joy-based one. If you need an excuse to get away for some ‘me’ time, this is it!

Workshop info (scroll down for the ‘Special Events’)

Places fill up quickly, email me at andrea@purplefeather.co.uk or call me at 07779 481807 to save your spot!

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How Authentic Are Your Words?

Have you ever wondered what your words were really saying?  I know I’ve had my fair share of times when I’ve wondered how authentic I’m being.  Your words are power and they can change your world if you know how to connect with them. I learned how to surrender and the impossible suddenly became possible!  Ready to know what your words are saying?

It’s been a whirlwind of excitement around here!  I’m thrilled to share the video interview I did with Becky Walsh from Heal Your Life.  We talked about my video, ‘The Power of Words’ and how grace can be a part of our lives to bring things forward that we never thought possible; to open doors we thought were closed forever; and to embrace the best parts of human nature that we sometimes feel the need to hide.

We talked about recognizing the inner child within us all that carries around the burdens of society and the life events that hold us back and stop us from following our bliss.

 

 

In my book, Change Your Words, Change Your World, I’ll take you through how YOU can rewrite the path you’re on and change the script of your life.  There’s a power in your words that has yet to be tapped into and I can help you connect with the creative force of your words to evoke a rich, original and authentic life.

What does success mean to you?  What does a serene life mean to you?  Are you ready to Change Your Words to Change your World?

The moment I realized I was living by somebody else’s definition of success was such a huge eye opener.  I had what most consider a ‘successful career’ with all the bells and whistles yet I didn’t like who I was.  Thus begins the journey to discover my true, authentic self by following my heart, going within and listening to my own internal conversation; the words I had ignored or dismissed until then; the words I needed to hear.

After surrendering to grace and letting it carry me, change began to come forth through inspiration and goals that previously seemed out of reach were now reachable.  Taking the leap, surrendering to grace and embracing the raw power that fuels our words brings about the beautiful change in our worlds and lives.

What are your words saying?  Are your goals in reach?  Do you like who you are? Are you listening?  If you’ve answered ‘no’ to these questions, then it’s time for you to surrender!  Let me help you Change your Words so you can Change Your World!

All my Best!

Andrea

 

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A Special Greeting of Thanksgiving!

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“Gratitude is the inward feeling of kindness received. Thankfulness is the natural impulse to express that feeling. Thanksgiving is the following of that impulse.” ~Henry Van Dyke

Here at PurpleFeather, we want to send you a special greeting of Thanksgiving to express to you our sincere appreciation for your confidence and loyalty. We are deeply thankful and extend to you our best wishes for a happy and healthy Thanksgiving Day! Also, keep your eyes on your inbox for a special offer coming your way very soon.

Warmest wishes,

Andrea Gardner & Team at PurpleFeather

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Is Self-Sabotage keeping you trapped and feeling unhappy?

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None of us live a “perfect” life. Life is not meant to be perfect; it has it’s extreme highs and the lowest lows all on its own. We don’t need any internal help. There are times, though, that we tell ourselves we aren’t good enough, there is no way WE can do THAT, it’s impossible, no way. Why would we do that to ourselves when we spend so much energy fighting off these same remarks from the world? Self-sabotage is something so many of us have become accustomed to that we’ve grown numb against the pain.

On your daily walks, meditations, or coaching sessions you should cleanse yourself from these internal self-sabotaging ideas. We are creations that can do so much good for the world that we need to push away the negative, harmful ideas away from us and spread only good, hope, love and kindness. That is not to say that these thoughts won’t creep in from time to time even with the most diligent practice, but the more you practice the easier it will be to look into your own reflection standing tall feeling powerful and in control of your life.

I have created a FREE Video Training on the 3 symptoms of Self-Sabotage that are keeping you trapped and unhappy. Come on over and sign up now and get your Video Training or schedule a FREE Strategy Session with me. Visit: http://www.andreagardner.co.uk/.

You deserve to be happy, healthy, and loved by you first and foremost. Let me help you along your journey to becoming the best possible you that you can become. You deserve it!

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Exercise your Mind and Body

Purple FeatherIt is summertime! What a lovely time for engaging in outdoor activities. Now is the time, to meet those exercising goals you have been aiming to get done for months. It is time to get your body toned and moving.

Of course, there are other exercises that you can engage in each and every day. Do not forget about your mind. It is a very important muscle to attend to. It should be stimulated just as much as any other part of your anatomy.

In order to do so, get some exercises rolling. Replace your tread mills, stair climbers and dumbbells with a computer or even good, old fashioned paper and pen (or go one step further with an inked, feathered pen.) Your written words will be the actual exercise.

Now, stop and ponder, for a moment, about what story you have been waiting to tell. Whatever it might be, it is worth telling and sharing. All words are extremely powerful and truly make a difference. You words might inspire someone else.

Make sure you do this every day for at least fifteen minutes or try to aim for a page a day. Believe it or not, by the end of the year, you will have something extraordinary right in front of your very eyes.

So basically, no matter what, be sure to set time aside. Communication is the main key to unlocking your mind and your voice. Never forget that…

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3 Realistic Steps to a Happy Ending

Some of the best stories are those that have never been told.

Example?

‘One day I’m going to…’ or ‘When I retire there’ll be enough time to…’

We all tell ourselves stories most of the time. They give us a handle on our world. One of my current favourites is: ‘When I’m fit enough I’ll be able to beat my husband at tennis.’ I’m recovering from an abdominal operation which makes walking to the end of the driveway a challenge. So even this sounds like an impossible dream right now. But it’s how I keep myself motivated to walk for 5 minutes extra every day.

And that’s a good thing while it remains an achievable goal which I’m gently committed to.

But what happens when the dream becomes pure fantasy and gets stored just out of reach on an inner shelf, alongside all the other dusty ‘if onlys’? It will soon start to take up valuable energy and taunt me into a vague sense of dissatisfaction.

The common thread that runs through these types of stories is the word ‘enough’. And it’s a word we tend to play fast and loose with. ‘When I get enough time, space, money, love, exercise…’ Whatever the commodity it feels like there’s not enough of it in the here and now.

And that’s sad. Because ‘enough’ is not a word that can ever be defined by a dictionary or even another person. It’s a quantity or quality that we need to determine ourselves.

Unless we change our relationship with the concept of enough we’ll keep pushing it out there ahead of us into never-never land.

So how do you rewrite the story you’re telling yourself and give it a happy ending?

I’ll be covering this topic in much more depth in a workshop I’ll be hosting at the Mind Body Spirit Festival in London’s Earl’s Court next Sunday, 25th May and I’d love to see you there. But if you can’t make it, here’s the summary:

1. Decide there is already enough of whatever it is you feel you’re lacking. You’re a child of the Universe! There will always be enough time, money, love and opportunity once you fully commit to something. But it will only ‘magically’ happen once you commit to it.

2. Take one step at a time. You’ve no doubt heard this before but breaking your happy ending into bite size chunks really helps avoid overwhelm. The steps can be as small as you like – remember you’re the storyteller.

When I was writing my first book, Change Your Words, Change Your World  I would imagine my first book signing in vivid detail. I’d tune into the excitement and energy around the event and picture queues of smiling people holding my book. Then I’d look backwards in time from that end point and ask my mind to describe all the necessary steps I’d taken to get there. Like finding an agent, a publisher, an editor. Writing a blurb. Creating an overall structure for the book and each chapter. And finally I would think about how many words I could realistically commit to writing every day. When you do this, start really small – even 100 words a day soon mounts up – because you can always scale up if you need to. The important thing is to make it easy on yourself.

3. Be your own best friend. Every time you hit a deadline/lifeline, throw a private party! Do a little victory dance in your living room. Give yourself a high five or a hug. Reward your genius with something that makes you happy. Appreciate and express thanks for all the ways in which you have – and are – enough. Within a very short time you’ll start to notice that the extra time, money, love and opportunities magically become available to you.

And that’s it. Three easy steps towards a happy ending. Thanks for staying with me and I hope it helps! As always I’d love to hear your stories…

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