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Holimoments

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I think I’ve invented a new word…

Holimoments. As in holiday but much shorter and more intense.

It’s a word born of frustration, but hopefully with a happy future ahead of it.

The frustration arrived while I watched everyone else packing their suitcases at the beginning of July, when I realized that a full holiday was definitely, unquestionably, regrettably going to have to be written out of my schedule this year.

In hindsight I can see there’s a positive reason behind that – lots of exciting projects to work on and a wealth of lovely new people to meet. But at the time I felt decidedly cheated!

What, no time off? No lazy days in the sunshine, the only decision being which ice cream to have? What about all those novels stacked up by my bed, begging to be read?

After a full-on sulk it dawned on me that actually it didn’t have to be such a bleak prospect after all. And that’s when holimoments made an entrance.

First I asked myself a question that I often pose to my coaching clients:

Q: If you knew that you already had what you wanted, what would that be?

A: FREEDOM!

And I realized that, being self-employed, with a bit of re-jigging, I could make that happen almost daily. It’s probably the only real benefit of running your own business! I could create a little bit of freedom every day.

And then I got organized. I made a list of all the places my hubby and I could reasonably get to around where we live and work. I stacked the novels next to my desk with a comfy chair. And I started wearing brighter colors.

All summer, whenever there’s been a lull in the day, I’ve stepped away from my computer and done whatever took my fancy, whether I had 10 minutes or a whole afternoon.

And it’s made a huge difference to my mood. So far I’ve finished 3 novels, a chapter at a time, and am halfway through Caitlin Moran’sHow to Build a Girl‘ (snort-out-loud hilarious). Seth and I have spent an afternoon on Scotland’s magical Holy Isle, taken a meditative 2-hour trek deep into the New Forest, climbed to the top of Glastonbury Tor, sailed a friend’s yacht and reconnected with relatives we haven’t seen for years over a half-hour cuppa.

All memory-making holimoments, spread across a (slightly damp) summer. Our only rule? No digital devices. And because we’ve been completely focused on the moment – and each other – our experiences have been fathoms deeper and richer. Added bonus: no need for months of dieting for that elusive bikini body!

So now I’m thinking of running another Unhooked Retreat2 days of unhurried relaxation, immersed in the peace of nature, embracing mindfulness, effective healing techniques and large helpings of nutritious home-cooked food and restful sleep. Sound good? Martha thought so:

“Oh. My. God. Thank you sooo much, both of you. I’m a new woman! Who knew that 2 days could work such magic? I’m clearer than I’ve been for years. Those huge trees, the breathing, Seth’s infamous veggie curry, amazing.  Didn’t miss my phone once! When can I come back?”                                                                                                                  – Martha, Edinburgh

No phones, no distractions, just time to reconnect you with what’s really important. Your body – and your business – will thank you. We only work with 2 couples (or up to 4 singles prepared to share a twin room) at a time. To obtain additional information go to Unhooked Retreat.

Til the next holimoment, au revoir!

Andrea Sig

 

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DON’T Read This if You Want to Change

Did you know that the unconscious mind doesn’t recognize the word ‘don’t’? Every time you use it, your mind will skip it and go straight to the rest of your sentence. So when you say to your kids ‘Don’t run, you’ll fall over’, you’re actually giving them a command to run and fall, which makes it much more likely to happen. It might be more constructive to say ‘Run on the grass’ or ‘Watch where you’re going when you run.’ Think of the UK’s Drink Drive campaign ‘Don’t Drink and Drive.’ Surely it would make more sense to say ‘Stay Sober, Arrive Safe’?

Since your unconscious mind doesn’t process a negative, it’s important to be clear with the words you use, whether speaking to yourself or someone else. Instead of telling yourself what not to do, focus more on what to do. Think of new ways to phrase things by removing the negatives. I can’t think how many times I’ve been nervous in the past and repeatedly said to myself ‘Don’t mess this up’ then watched, horrified, as I did exactly that! If I’d known what I know now and concentrated instead on what I did want to happen, the result is likely to have been very different.

Making the transition to positive language and rephrasing how you speak to yourself and others will not only help your unconscious mind, but also your conscious mind! You’ll start thinking – and acting – more effectively. Where the head goes, your body follows.

Keen to know which words will specifically convert your web traffic into solid sales or enthusiastic inquiries? Take a look at my new coaching program.

Andrea Sig

 

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Upcoming Events

Change Your Words, Change Your World’ – Workshop on May 30th

A one-day introductory workshop on how to shift from a fear-based reality to a joy-based one. If you need an excuse to get away for some ‘me’ time, this is it!

Workshop info (scroll down for the ‘Special Events’)

Places fill up quickly, email me andrea@purplefeather.co.uk or call me at 07779 481807 to save your spot!

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